All posts filed under: Self Love

5 ways to manage change when it gets the better of you

As we grow and enter new chapters of our lives our priorities, desires and attitudes change. Influenced by relationships, finances, health, confidence, morals and the desire for happiness, change is often the start of an exciting transition that brings with it a bevy of new opportunities. However, for some change can also be cringe-worthily confronting – particularly if we let it get the better of us! When we’re younger we think we know who we are and who we want to become. But, as we learn more about life and managing the curve-balls that are sent our way, we adapt, shifting our attitudes and beliefs. This is how we learn to love new foods, attributes, places and ways of expressing ourselves. This is of course a lesson that we never stop learning. Invariably we never stay exactly the same (who would want to?!) and while some changes may scare or confuse us at first, it’s important to accept that change is usually for the better and that it’s OK. I write this as overcoming change has been a …

The relaxation response; how quietening the mind can be incredibly powerful

It’s well known that our bodies have a response that we switch on when danger is present – it’s called the fight or flight response. For those who don’t know what this is – when we’re faced with immediate danger (say a lion jumping out in front of us while on a walk) our body switches on in an unprecedented way. It prepares to either stay and fight or to get out of there as quickly as possible. What happens when this response activates? Our bodies fire up turning on a turbo charge of energy. Hormones like adrenalin and cortisol are released, our heart rate and blood pressure go up, the blood vessels to our muscles open to get extra fuel, sugars and fats pump in to the blood stream and we start to sweat to keep ourselves cool during exertion. Our bodies also pump out inflammatory chemicals to active our immune cells, our senses start to sharpen, and we begin mobilising for tissue repair, all while the attention centre in our brain is lighting …

Searching for that holiday feeling (without the holiday…)

Are you questioning how on earth we’re already in February? Are you feeling a little like the passing of years flew by in the blink of an eye and that out of nowhere we’re already talking Easter? How and when did this happen?!? Yet somehow when I look around me there seems to be people everywhere flaunting a post holiday glow and refreshed attitude to life. If you’re feeling a little dazed about what happened to your precious summer break, you’re not alone. My holiday was mostly a blur of Christmas shopping, family visits, trips to see friends and a whole-lot-a life admin. Despite that I had nearly two weeks away from my desk (only a mere month ago!), the time didn’t leave me feeling ready and roaring to take on a new year. In fact, when I returned to work I was feeling rather flat and weary which was not how I had intended or desired to start 2015. Seeing a longing in my eyes (and after having felt the same holidaylessness as me), …

Start the New Year with acceptance, not resolutions

With New Year’s Eve only days away, the holiday-break in motion and the gluttony of Christmas now well and truly set-in, now is the time of year when we typically stop and take stock of our lives. For most of us, Jan 1st is the time we reset our goals and assess how we live in comparison to how we’d like to live. It is this thinking and hope for something better that sees us develop New Year’s resolutions. Our resolutions are usually big personal changes that require the spark of a New Year to get firing. Whether it’s losing that extra weight, investing in your fitness, or learning to say no, the change isn’t something that typically comes easily to us. It requires an investment of time, attitude and persistence. The problem with most resolutions is that the process of implementing these changes is often heavily flawed. While goal setting is important, putting realistic, achievable steps in play that will help you achieve your desired changes over the long-term are just as critical. If …