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Start the New Year with acceptance, not resolutions

With New Year’s Eve only days away, the holiday-break in motion and the gluttony of Christmas now well and truly set-in, now is the time of year when we typically stop and take stock of our lives.

For most of us, Jan 1st is the time we reset our goals and assess how we live in comparison to how we’d like to live. It is this thinking and hope for something better that sees us develop New Year’s resolutions.

Our resolutions are usually big personal changes that require the spark of a New Year to get firing. Whether it’s losing that extra weight, investing in your fitness, or learning to say no, the change isn’t something that typically comes easily to us. It requires an investment of time, attitude and persistence.

The problem with most resolutions is that the process of implementing these changes is often heavily flawed. While goal setting is important, putting realistic, achievable steps in play that will help you achieve your desired changes over the long-term are just as critical.

If we aren’t real to ourselves about what we can achieve and how we can do it, these goals often fail to stick as soon as the hustle and bustle of real life replaces the serenity of holiday bliss.

To sense check this thinking – hands up if you’ve had the same New Year’s resolution for the past three years? I know I certainly have.

This year I’m renaming my New Year’s resolutions to New Year’s acceptances.

I read yesterday that we should look at our days as if they are our life in miniature. What you do today is actually creating your future – from the words you speak, to the decisions you make and the food you eat.

This thinking brings to life the role of each and every day in our lives. We should view every day as a step towards achieving goals, as real change is never something that happens overnight. It’s a long process and each sunrise represents a new chapter in our desire for something different.

If we work at what we want to change, day in day out, and accept that the process will have flaws and that there will be natural highs and lows, only then will we be able to truly achieve what we’ve set out to change.

So, in the spirit of being real to myself and in my attempts to try and live The Whole Life, I’m not going to feel guilty if I slip up. I am going to accept the change process and myself. I also promise to try and bring my every thing to the table every single day.

So, what are my goals for 2015?

  • To show more gratitude
  • To drink more water daily
  • To invest more confidently in my own self care

I’d love to hear yours?

*hat-tip to my dear friend Lu who first floated the idea of New Year’s acceptances with me as we contemplated what was in store for us in 2015

**Pic courtesy of the team at Esty – if you want these sparkly numbers for your celebration you can get them here

9 Comments

  1. marteenlane says

    What a wonderful post! My goals for 2015 are to do a good deed each day for the year; to raise money for Pieta House, an organisation here in Ireland that help people with depression and of course to continue flourishing 😊

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  2. Lovely post. Most of my resolutions involve learning or building skills and I’ve already scheduled training in some of those areas. Other resolutions are a little more abstract. I too want to invest more in my self-care. The plan is to meditate every day and then take a walk. Later in the year, I want to integrate yoga. I want to take it slowly because I know one reason so many people fail with resolutions is packing in too much too soon. There’s a whole year ahead. No need to try to get it all done in January.

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    • Clementine says

      Sounds like your 2015 is already off to a great start Cosette! I completely agree, a step-by-step approach to achieving goals makes the process much more enjoyable and achievable. I hope you have a fantastic year x

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  3. I gave upon resolutions years ago, but I still believe wholeheartedly in fresh starts and changes. I do the ‘one word’ thing and that helps guide me to better things each year. My word this year is “complete”. I hope you also gave a completely awesome year, Clementine. x

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    • Clementine says

      I love the one word idea Maxabella! I think my word for this year will be educate or nourish… it’s so hard to pick just one! 😉 Thanks for your well wishes. I hope you have a completely awesome year as well x

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  4. Great post to start the new year on the right path 🙂 I’m on year 2 going without new year’s resolutions. I’m using goals and plans instead of just wishing to be healthy. Great to read yours. Happy New Year!

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    • Clementine says

      Sounds like a great approach Maureen! Wishing you lots of good health and happiness in 2015 x

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